“A Baby Won’t Fix What’s Broken”: Amanda Batula Says She Refuses to Use Motherhood as a Band-Aid for a Strained Marriage

In a powerful and emotionally raw revelation that’s bound to stir Summer House fans, Amanda Batula is pulling back the curtain on her marriage to Kyle Cooke—and setting the record straight on why she’s not rushing into motherhood.

While pressure to start a family looms large—especially in the Bravo world of camera-ready couples and growing baby bumps—Amanda is taking a firm, thoughtful stance:

“I want a baby someday. But not to fix something that’s already falling apart.”

“We’re Not in a Place Where We Should Be Adding More Pressure”

In a recent conversation with close friends (filmed off-camera, but confirmed by insiders), Amanda admitted that her marriage with Kyle is going through one of its hardest seasons yet.

“Some days it feels like we’re roommates. Other days it feels like we’re enemies,” she said. “And that’s not the kind of environment I want to bring a child into.”

 

Amanda described long nights spent in separate rooms, communication breakdowns, and cycles of emotional distance that have left her feeling isolated in a relationship that used to feel like home.

“We smile on Instagram, we show up for parties… but there’s a lot you don’t see. And I’m tired of pretending it’s all okay.”

“I’m Not Saying No to Kids — I’m Saying Yes to Healing First”

Though Amanda has made it clear she wants to become a mother one day, she refuses to do so just to placate outside expectations or cover up the cracks forming behind closed doors.

“A baby is not a solution. A baby is a soul, a life, a commitment that deserves more than just hope that things will get better,” she said.

And right now, she says, she’s focused on making sure that she is okay — before becoming responsible for anyone else’s happiness.

“I want to be the kind of mom who’s whole. Who’s present. And I can’t be that if I’m constantly drowning in my own relationship.”

“I Still Love Him. But Love Isn’t Always Enough.”

Amanda isn’t walking away from her marriage — not yet. But she’s no longer romanticizing the idea that love alone can hold two people together when communication, trust, and emotional support are all running low.

“We’ve been through a lot. And I don’t regret any of it. But I’m learning that staying together just to keep up appearances… that’s not love. That’s fear.”

A New Chapter — On Her Own Terms

Amanda says she’s still hopeful. Hopeful for growth. Hopeful for healing. Hopeful that one day, the family she dreams of will happen — but in a way that feels grounded, honest, and healthy.

“If we rebuild this marriage, it won’t be because of a baby. It’ll be because we chose each other again. For real this time.”

And until then, Amanda’s choosing herself — and that, she says, might be the bravest thing she’s ever done.