In a startlingly honest moment, Love Is Blind’s Matt Barnett is opening up about the mounting financial tension in his marriage to Amber Pike, revealing that the arrival of their first child — once a shared dream — has brought with it unexpected strain.
“I’m excited to be a dad. I really am,” Matt said. “But some of the spending lately… it’s starting to feel like too much. And I don’t know how to say that without sounding like the bad guy.”
“I Want the Best for Our Baby — But I Also Want Stability”
According to Matt, the financial pressure didn’t hit him all at once — it crept in slowly. First with the designer nursery furniture, then the high-end stroller, then the subscription boxes, the organic-only rule, the specialized baby gear “we might use once.”
“Every week there’s a new Amazon package,” he admitted. “Every time I check the credit card, my stomach drops. And when I bring it up? It turns into a fight.”
Matt says he understands Amber’s heart is in the right place — she wants to give their baby everything. But in his eyes, they’re not building a sustainable future — they’re digging a deeper hole.
“We’re not millionaires. We don’t have unlimited income,” he said. “And it scares me that she doesn’t seem to see that.”
“We’re Supposed to Be a Team… But I Feel Alone in This”
What worries Matt even more than the spending is the growing distance it’s causing between him and Amber.
“When I try to talk to her about budgeting, she takes it as criticism — like I’m saying she’s a bad mom,” he explained. “But that’s not it. I just want us to be on the same page.”
Lately, though, their conversations have been less about planning and more about survival.
“We’re arguing more. We’re both exhausted. And I can feel myself shutting down. Like, I just nod and say, ‘Okay,’ because I’m too tired to fight anymore.”
“I’m Not Trying to Control Her — I’m Trying to Protect Us”
Matt says he’s not trying to micromanage Amber — but he is trying to safeguard their future.
“I’ve always wanted to be a provider. A protector. But right now, I feel powerless,” he said. “Like I’m watching the ground crack under our feet and I don’t know how to stop it.”
Despite the stress, Matt insists he still believes in their love — but admits they’re at a crossroads.
“This isn’t just about money,” he said. “It’s about respect. Partnership. Long-term thinking. And I need to know we’re both in this for the whole journey — not just the baby phase.”
