In a gut-wrenching confession that lays bare the quiet collapse so many new mothers experience, Love Is Blind star Bliss Poureetezadi-Goytowski is pulling back the curtain on her marriage to Zack Goytowski — and the toll that unequal parenting is taking on her heart, her mind, and her love for the man she once chose in a pod.
“I don’t want to hate him,” Bliss whispered through tears. “But I’m starting to. And that scares me more than anything.”
The Exhaustion No One Talks About
Since welcoming their baby, Bliss says her life has become a never-ending loop of feedings, rocking, crying (the baby’s and her own), and isolation. Meanwhile, Zack’s well-meaning but distant support has felt more like absence than partnership.
“He says he’s tired after work,” she explained. “But I never stop working. I don’t clock out. I don’t get to go to a quiet room and breathe. I’m always ‘on.’ And he doesn’t see it.”
She says the emotional labor is crushing — and she’s not sure how much more she can hold without breaking.
“I didn’t expect to feel this lonely in marriage. I didn’t expect to look at my husband and feel… resentment.”
The Small Cuts That Add Up
For Bliss, it isn’t just the big things — it’s the accumulation of small moments that are changing how she sees Zack.
“He scrolls while I’m trying to soothe our baby. He sleeps through the cries. He says, ‘Just tell me what to do,’ like I’m his boss, not his wife,” she said. “And every time he asks that, I feel more invisible.”
The resentment, she admits, has started to seep into even the loving moments.
“When he holds the baby and smiles for a photo, all I can think is, Where were you at 3 a.m.? When I was sobbing into a burp cloth because I felt like I was failing alone?”
“I Chose Him. But I Didn’t Choose This.”
Bliss never doubted Zack’s heart — but she’s starting to question whether he understands what partnership really means.
“He’s a good man. I believe that. But good isn’t enough if I’m drowning and he’s holding the life raft without jumping in.”
And while divorce is not on her mind, emotional distance is — and it’s growing by the day.
“We still laugh. We still say ‘I love you.’ But something’s changing. I don’t look at him the same way anymore. Not because I don’t love him — but because I’m starting to wonder if he’s capable of loving me in the way I need now.”
“I Just Want Him to Wake Up”
More than anything, Bliss says, she’s not looking for perfection — she’s looking for effort.
“I’m not asking for him to do it all. I’m asking him to notice when I’m breaking. To step in without being asked. To see me again.”
Because underneath the exhaustion, the anger, the heartbreak — is still the woman who fell in love with him in a pod, hoping he'd fight for her outside of it.
