In a hauntingly honest reflection that’s sending shockwaves through the Love Is Blind fandom, Jasmine Johnson is pulling back the curtain on the silent struggles of new motherhood — and revealing how becoming a parent has completely shifted the way she sees her relationship with husband Bobby.
“I love my child more than anything,” Jasmine said quietly. “But sometimes I look around and wonder… when did my life stop being mine?”
“He’s Trying, But I’m the One Who’s Disappearing”
According to Jasmine, Bobby — who was praised early on for being the doting husband and soon-to-be dad — has continued to show up in all the expected ways: cooking meals, doing late-night bottle runs, offering support. But despite his efforts, Jasmine admits she still feels deeply alone.
“He’s there, but I don’t always feel seen,” she confessed. “It’s like I’ve become this role — ‘Mum’ — and the woman I was before is fading fast. I didn’t expect to lose me in the process.”
She says the emotional toll has been harder to explain than the sleepless nights.
“Everyone talks about exhaustion, but no one talks about the identity crisis,” Jasmine said. “You become everything for everyone — and somewhere in that, you stop being anything for yourself.”
“Our Conversations Changed. I Changed.”
Jasmine describes how the smallest things — like how Bobby greets her when he comes home or how they communicate during the day — have shifted since the baby arrived.
“Before, he’d ask how I was. Now it’s ‘How’s the baby?’ Or ‘Did she nap today?’ It’s not wrong, but it makes me feel like I’ve become invisible.”
She paused, her voice trembling slightly:
“Sometimes I want to scream, ‘I’m still here too.’”
Marriage on a New Battlefield
Though Jasmine insists she still loves Bobby — deeply — she also admits they’ve had more arguments than ever before.
“It’s not about big things. It’s about the little cracks. The way he scrolls on his phone when I’m trying to talk. The way he says ‘you’re overthinking’ when I’m spiraling,” she said. “It’s like… I used to feel like his partner. Now, I feel like the background noise.”
Still, she doesn’t blame him. In fact, she says part of the pain comes from how much she wants it to work — and how hard that feels some days.
“He’s doing what he thinks is right. But I need more than help. I need connection. I need him to remember who I was before we became parents — because I’m still trying to remember, too.”
A Cry for Reconnection
Jasmine says she’s not asking for grand gestures — just a moment to breathe. A moment to be held, not just helped. A moment to feel like someone’s looking at her and not just through her.
“I want him to hold my hand and ask, ‘How are you really doing?’ And I want to be able to answer without guilt.”
“I Love Our Family — But I Miss Us”
As Jasmine continues navigating this new chapter of motherhood, she’s learning to give herself grace — and quietly hoping that her marriage can weather this storm of change.
“This isn’t about blame. It’s about truth,” she said. “I’m not okay pretending everything’s fine. Because if I stay silent much longer… I’m scared I’ll forget what ‘fine’ ever felt like.”
