“I Never Meant to Break Her”: Love Is Blind’s Matt Barnett Admits He Didn’t See Amber’s Pain Until It Was Too Loud to Ignore

In a raw and vulnerable moment, Love Is Blind alum Matt Barnett is finally speaking out — not to defend himself, but to acknowledge the hurt he didn’t realize he was causing.

Amber Pike’s heartbreaking confession about feeling like she was “breaking down” under the pressure to have a second child shook fans of the couple who once seemed unbreakable. Now, Matt is offering his side — and it’s not filled with excuses, but regret.

“I thought I was dreaming out loud,” Matt said quietly. “I didn’t know I was pushing her deeper into something she was barely surviving.”

“I Was So Focused on the Future, I Missed the Present”

Matt says the idea of growing their family always felt like a natural next step. But in chasing that dream, he admits he didn’t take time to look around — and see the woman who was falling apart right beside him.

“I kept saying, ‘It’ll be easier this time.’ But I didn’t carry the baby. I didn’t go through postpartum. I wasn’t the one who had to become someone new while still being everything for everyone.”

 

He says he truly believed they were in it together — but now he sees how one-sided that “together” may have felt.

“I thought being home at night and changing a few diapers meant I was helping,” Matt admitted. “But I never really asked her how she was doing. Not in a real way.”

A Wake-Up Call He Didn’t Expect

Amber’s recent emotional spiral hit Matt like a brick wall. He says her silence during a recent dinner — when he casually brought up baby names — was the moment everything shifted.

“She didn’t say a word. She just stared at her plate,” Matt recalled. “And for the first time, I saw it — the weight she was carrying, the hurt in her eyes. I had been talking about our future while she was barely surviving the

That night, Matt says he stayed up rereading old texts, looking at pictures of them from the early days — trying to remember what it felt like to know each other beyond just being parents.

“We used to laugh until 2 a.m. We used to dream together. I don’t know when I stopped seeing her as my partner and started seeing her as just the mother of my child.”

“I Miss Her. And I Want to Fight for Her.”

Matt isn’t backing away from the hard truth: he messed up. Not with malice, but with blindness. And now, all he wants is to fix what he can before it’s too late.

“She thinks I don’t notice. But I do now. I see the tears she wipes away before turning off the lights. I see how she hesitates before speaking up. And I hate that I made her feel like she couldn’t breathe.”

He says he’s not asking for a second baby anymore. He’s asking for a second chance — with Amber.

“She’s the love of my life. Not just the mother of my child. And I’ll spend the rest of my life trying to make sure she feels that — every single day.”

Whether their love story continues or not, one thing is clear: Matt is finally listening. And for Amber, that might be the first real step toward healing.