‘Teen Mom’ Star Catelynn Lowell Gives Update on Her Strained Relationship with Bio Daughter Carly’s Parents After Being Cut Off from Carly Earlier This Year

It’s been a few months since Catelynn Lowell and Tyler Baltierra launched an all-out online tirade against Brandon and Teresa Davis, the parents of their biological daughter Carly. While the Teen Mom stars have remained relatively quiet lately, Catelynn spoke up on her TikTok account on Friday about how difficult it was going through the Christmas season without having contact with Carly.

As The Ashley previously reported back in September, Catelynn publicly announced that Brandon and Teresa have blocked her and Tyler and cut off their contact with Carly, who is now 16 years old. At the time, Cate claimed that Teresa blocked her due to Catelynn sending too many updates and text messages to Carly and her family. For the next few months, Catelynn and Tyler— who placed Carly for adoption immediately after her 2009 birth — continued to call out Carly’s parents for no longer allowing her to have contact with them or their daughters. 

On Friday, Catelynn spoke out again.

“Adoption isn’t all cupcakes and rainbows. It’s a lot of rain,” Catelynn wrote. “You know…Adoption is hard…the PTSD is real. The sadness is real.”

Catelynn went on to give an update on the strained relations between Brandon and Teresa and her and Tyler, writing that nothing has changed since the last time she spoke out about the situation.

“Still no contact and completely blocked from her life…all for speaking my feelings,” Catelynn wrote. “Telling her parents how I felt.”

Catelynn went on to write about her struggles to accept the current state of her relationship with Carly.

“I chose open adoption so I wouldn’t have any ‘what ifs’ and now here I sit with all of them,” she wrote. “I don’t wish this pain on anyone ever.”

Catelynn then addressed the fact that Carly may be the one who wanted to cut contact off from her and Ty, but stated that she is not sure, due to Brandon and Teresa refusing to discuss it.

“Now if this is what Carly wants (which we have asked her parents multiple times and have just been ignored then blocked), then we would accept that wholeheartedly and be here when she is (if ever) ready. 

“No one ever wants to speak about the hard and the hurt of adoption,” she continued.

“As a first parent, I can tell you there is a LOT [of] hurt and sadness. Sadness and wishing that I will have for the rest of my life. Trauma that I will never be able to [get] rid of. That slaps you in the face at random moments throughout life.”

Catelynn— who is the mother of three daughters with Tyler— went on to write how much she misses Carly.

“I just love her…I miss her…I yearn for her,” she wrote. “That’s something that will never fade. 

“Until we meet again my girl,” Cate wrote to Carly directly. “Just know you are loved and thought about EVERY DAY!” 

While Tyler has remained relatively quiet lately about his and Cate’s (seemingly one-sided) battle with Brandon and Teresa, he did hit Instagram Live several times in the fall, discussing Carly’s parents at length and talking about how his and Cate’s recent decision to become vocal may affect their future relationship with Carly.

“I don’t think that there’s not anything else they could possibly do,” Tyler said of Brandon and Teresa in September. “They’ve already been upset and angry about a lot of things, but I don’t really think that …there’s any further helping I can do since I’m blocked. There’s not really anything I can do that will make this any worse. They’ve already cut off contact, that’s been established. They have no desire to talk about anything even though I’ve tried…

“I guess I’m not worried [it will hurt Carly]. I’m not really sure it would hurt her,” he said. “I’m not bashing her parents; I’m not calling them names or saying they’re right or wrong. I’m expressing my perspective from a birth parent perspective. I would hope this wouldn’t hurt her. I would hope this is information she wants and desires. I’m not too worried that she’ll be negatively affected by it because the truth it the truth. You can’t get around it. I hope and pray she’s not affected by it. I can’t guarantee that. I wish they would talk to us and say what’s going on!”

Tyler and Catelynn’s adoption turmoil will almost certainly be a storyline for the upcoming season of ‘Teen Mom: The Next Chapter,’ which premieres next month. Tyler has also stated that he and Catelynn plan to start a podcast about adoption and the trauma it brings.