The Bachelor: Rose Sombke Was Right To Leave After Grant Ellis' Indecisiveness Amid Drama With Carolina Quixano (She Chose Herself)

It wouldn't be The Bachelor without a little drama to stir things up, and this season is no exception, as Grant Ellis' journey to finding a wife took a turn when Rose Sombke chose to eliminate herself from the competition after being done "dirty" by fellow contestant Carolina Quixano. Grant has been open about his intentions, which are to settle down and start a family. The former basketball player has been taking his time to get to know each of the 25 women who are competing, but things are bound to get tense with so many emotions involved.

Rose, 27, and Carolina, 29, are two contestants who have formed strong connections with Grant, 31, and after a group date ended with Carolina straddling and making out with Grant, much to the distress of the other women, Grant had to reassure the other women that he was still thinking of them. This set off a chain of events that ended up with Rose deciding to leave the competition early after being gaslit by Grant. Rose's choice proves that she values herself more than reality TV drama.

Rose Took Grant’s Indecisiveness As A Sign

Grant Struggles With Picking A Side

Grant has been criticized for being "too soft" to be The Bachelor, often trying to protect his image as a nice guy and not offend the women. In the case of Rose and Carolina, Grant's actions proved this, as he refused to accept accountability for telling Rose he was thinking about her while he danced and made out with Carolina. In episode 2, Grant told Rose she was still a frontrunner in the competition, despite his make-out with Carolina.

"I'm very interested in you. Like even today, right, you know, the whole dancing thing on stage and everything, I was thinking about you. I don't want you to feel like I wasn't paying attention, because I am."

In the next episode, Rose tells Carolina what Grant said off-camera, and Carolina tearfully confronts Grant about it on-camera. Grant then backtracks his statements, and tells Rose her actions were "disrespectful" and implied that he was trying to play games with the women. He calls Rose's accusations a lie, but he did indeed say the words, "the whole dancing thing... I was thinking about you." So while she may have slightly misconstrued his statement, she didn't lie.

Grant's actions proved that he is incapable of taking accountability for saying things that may hurt another woman's feelings. He's trying to protect his image, not the women competing for him. There are also whispers that perhaps Grant's true motive is to promote his music career (he dropped a single called "Party Girl" just before the show premiered). Either way, Rose's decision to self-eliminate from the competition was a direct result of Grant's indecisiveness.

Rose Chose Herself And Didn’t Get Caught Up In Drama

Rose Stood Up For Herself To Grant, Carolina

Despite Grant giving Rose a rose after all the drama, it was too little, too late. Rose felt the trust was already broken, and in the next episode, she made the difficult decision to put herself first and remove herself from the competition, even if it meant losing Grant. For a show like The Bachelor, which can sometimes feel antiquated since the women "compete" for a man, seeing a contestant leave willingly rather than continue to engage in the drama with Carolina confirms she values herself as a woman and wants more from a partner.

Rose also stood up for herself against Carolina, who she felt had back-stabbed her by telling Grant what Rose repeated about his thoughts during his dance with Carolina. Again, Rose didn't lie, she said what Grant had told her. After choosing to leave the show, Rose let Carolina know how she felt.

"It's just that your actions really set me back and it really kind of f****d me over in a big fat f*****g way...You backstabbed me... You f-----g did me dirty."

Rose And Carolina’s Drama Takes Away From The Point Of The Bachelor

The Drama Is Distracting

While reality shows like The Bachelor need elements of drama to be successful and keep fans invested, the fight between Rose and Carolina felt unnecessary and distracted from the point of the show. Of course, back-stabbing and gossip go with the territory on reality shows, but the drama only proved Grant might be disingenuous in his motives, as instead of comforting both women and taking accountability for what he said, he effectively turned them against each other.

On a show where the goal is to find love, Grant needs to keep things on track, not add to the drama. Rose made the best decision for herself when she essentially gave Grant his rose back, leaving him free to continue pursuing other women, including Carolina. It remains to be seen whether Carolina will end up with the final rose after all is said and done.