“He Was More Jealous Than Loving”: Love Is Blind’s Colleen Reed Says Matt’s Insecurity Turned Their Marriage Into a Prison She Couldn’t Breathe In

In a painfully honest revelation, Love Is Blind alum Colleen Reed is finally shedding light on the quiet torment she endured during her marriage to Matt Bolton — and revealing that what looked like love from the outside was, in truth, a slow emotional suffocation.

After their whirlwind romance on the show ended in “I do,” fans hoped Colleen and Matt would defy the odds. But behind closed doors, Colleen says she was trapped in a relationship built not on trust, but on control, fear, and constant jealousy.

“It felt like I was always walking on eggshells,” Colleen shared. “If I looked at someone the wrong way, if I didn’t text back fast enough, it was a fight. I stopped feeling like a partner… and started feeling like a prisoner.”

“He Said It Was Love — But It Felt Like Possession”

Colleen says Matt’s insecurity didn’t start with dramatic blowups — it started subtly. A suspicious glance. A passive-aggressive comment. A need to know her whereabouts all the time.

“At first, I thought it was sweet that he cared so much,” she explained. “But soon, I couldn’t breathe without him questioning it.”

 

She claims he regularly accused her of things she never did — flirting, hiding things, even intending to hurt him emotionally.

“I was constantly defending myself for crimes I didn’t commit. And no matter how many times I reassured him, it was never enough.”

Love That Felt Like Surveillance

Colleen describes nights out becoming interrogations, harmless conversations turning into full-blown arguments, and any time apart leading to guilt trips or silent treatment.

“He’d check my phone, question my tone, analyze my outfits,” she recalled. “It stopped feeling like love and started feeling like surveillance.”

She says the emotional toll was staggering — she lost her spark, her voice, her sense of self.

“I used to be light. I used to be spontaneous. By the end, I was just… tired. Dull. Like my entire personality had been dulled down just to keep the peace.”

The Breaking Point

The moment she knew she had to leave wasn’t explosive. It was quiet. One night, after a seemingly small argument, Colleen sat alone in their apartment and realized:

“I didn’t recognize myself anymore. I wasn’t in love. I was in survival mode.”

She left not because she stopped caring — but because she finally started caring about herself again.

“I deserved a love that made me feel safe, not small. That gave me room to grow, not chains to stay.”

Moving On, But Not Silent

Now, Colleen is speaking up — not to destroy Matt, but to finally reclaim her truth.

“I kept quiet for too long because I didn’t want people to think badly of him. But in doing that, I let myself disappear. And I’m done disappearing.”

She says she still believes in love — real love. The kind that doesn’t punish you for being free, the kind that doesn’t confuse control for care.

“The next time I give my heart, it will be to someone who doesn’t see my independence as a threat — but as something to be proud of.”