I've Completely Lost Interest In The Bachelor, And It's Not Grant Ellis' Fault (He's Not To Blame For The Show's Mistakes)

The Bachelor season 29 with Grant included everything that I and other fans have come to despise about the show. From producer manipulation to create drama, to villainizing certain contestants, it's become clear that the show must do better and listen to its audience. I'm exhausted and bored from watching the same tired storylines play out year after year. I wanted better for Grant because I loved him on Jenn Tran's Bachelorette season, and I thought he'd be the perfect Bachelor.

The Drama Among The Bachelor Women Needs To End

It's Exhausting Watching The Same Arguments Every Season

Up until Grant's Bachelor season 29 hometown dates, when the women were finally separated from each other, every episode was dominated by drama among them. They argued with Zoe McGrazy and Carolina Sofia for dominating Grant's time during group dates, but they never thought to confront him about leaving the dates to spend time with the other women. I really don't like watching grown women argue with each other over a guy as though they're in middle school.

These arguments rear their ugly heads during every Bachelor season, but they're really getting old. I feel as though I'm rewatching previous seasons every time I turn on one of Grant's episodes. While the producers might think that all of the drama makes for good TV, all they're doing now is reminding the audience that the show is played out and ridiculous.

The Premise Of The Bachelor Is Absurd

The Star Leads The Women On

Another thing that's made me lose interest in the show is the fact that its premise causes the star to lead the women on. The displays of affection that happen between the lead and the women are just one example of how this happens. While I know that physical attraction is important in a relationship, it's completely cringe-worthy to watch Grant go from room to room, kissing woman after woman, and making them all feel so special. What's even more creepy is that the women know about it, and are still okay with it.

The entire premise of The Bachelor is based on the star leading women on, while they're supposed to fall in love with him without knowing if he returns their feelings. Before his hometown dates, I believe that it was clear that Grant had much stronger feelings for Juliana and Litia Garr than he did for Dina Lupancu, whom he eliminated, and Zoe McGrady, who'd never had a one-on-one date before he met her family. It was unnecessary for him to meet Dina and Zoe's families, and he also shouldn't share an overnight Fantasy Suite with Zoe, when it's so clear that she's not The One.

The Bachelor Engagement Is Problematic & Should Be Eliminated

The Timeline Of The Show Is Too Fast

The timeline of The Bachelor is way too fast for anyone to be considering getting engaged. This isn't season 1, when the show was still like an experiment. Grant and the audience know that most Bachelor relationships have failed, but yet we still have to sit and watch everyone make the same mistakes again and again. I just can't get invested in the relationships, knowing that the odds are stacked against them staying together.

The Bachelor has the lowest success rate of all of the Bachelor franchise shows, with just three out of the previous 28 couples still together. They include married couple Sean Lowe and Catherine Giudici, and engaged couples Zach Shallcross and Kaity Biggar, and Joey Graziadei and Kelsey Anderson. This is a red flag that the engagement at the end of the show is problematic, and it should be eliminated or at least not the main focus or goal of the show.